Example 1: Use a Subtle Sexual Smile. To use the Subtle, Sexual Smile to flirt with a woman at work, simply do the following: Allow yourself to feel confident in the moment while talking to her. Hold eye contact with her and smile in a confident, easy-going way. In your mind, assume that she likes you and then use that confidence to smile at. Try using some of the suggestions below if you get stuck, or use them to spark your own creativity on what to text. Flirty I liked the pants you were wearing the last time I saw you. They'd look good on my floor. Tell me something about you that you want me to know. Ask me something. Anything. Hello gorgeous. What are you doing right now?.